Virginia L. Lilley

Published 8:53 pm Sunday, January 17, 2021

Mrs. Virginia Lee Lilley, 83, of Washington, NC, was born in Washington, DC to the late Oscar Elward Estep and Sarah Hilda Rawlings Estep. She was raised in Cheltenham, MD, and graduated from Gwynn Park High School in 1955. She retired from Suntrust Bank (Truist) as an assistant treasurer after 40 years. She began in 1955 as a bank teller.

Virginia Lee was preceded in death by her first husband, Fred Ashton Bissette; her daughter, Carol Ashlee Bissette; and her second husband, Harold Rayford Lilley, Sr.

She was a faithful member of Old Ford Church of Christ and loved flowers, feeding birds and working in her yard. Some of her fondest memories were of spending summer days at the family “cottage” in Oriental, NC.

Left to cherish her memory are her brothers, Charles A. Estep (Gwen) of Washington, NC and John E. Estep of Cheltenham, MD. She is also survived by her nephew, Andrew R. Estep (Emma) of New York, and niece, Rebecca L. Grike (Matt) of New Jersey, and five great nieces and nephews.

In addition, she is survived by her step-sons, H. Rayford “Ray” Lilley, Jr. (Judy) of Washington, NC, Thomas “Tommy” B. Lilley (Sonya) of Washington, NC and Russell L. Lilley (Cortni) of Chocowinity, NC and seven step-grandchildren and 11 step-great grandchildren.

A graveside service will be held at 11:00 AM on Tuesday January 19, 2021 at Oakdale Cemetery, Washington, NC officiated by Reggie Braziel. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to a charity or church of your choice.

The family requests those attending the service wear protective masks and practice social distancing.

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Paul Funeral Home & Crematory of Washington is honored to serve the Lilley family.